That third-date urge
“Welcome to the third date,” Hannah Seligson writes for The Daily Beast, “that moment on the courtship trajectory when the truth comes out about STDs, personal hygiene habits, secret significant others, family backgrounds and, yes, their real age. Anecdotally, the third-date confession has become so legendary that some people have come to fear the third date for what they’ll learn about the up-to-now wonderful person smiling at them from across the table. … The tone, tempo and type of information revealed in a burgeoning relationship can get complicated. Is there ever really a right time to tell someone you are dating you never finished high school, that your father is a Satan
worshipper, or that that sex tape of yours is still making the virtual rounds? ‘I generally advise people to hold off on revealing information until things have become exclusive and serious,’ says Dr. Diana Kirschner, a New York-based psychologist and author of Love in 90 Days … Psychologically, Kirschner says, the third date is a moment when you are just starting to relax. And comfort can quickly morph into the impulse to reveal embarrassing or scary information. ‘It’s an unconscious wish to be accepted,’ she says.”
“Welcome to the third date,” Hannah Seligson writes for The Daily Beast, “that moment on the courtship trajectory when the truth comes out about STDs, personal hygiene habits, secret significant others, family backgrounds and, yes, their real age. Anecdotally, the third-date confession has become so legendary that some people have come to fear the third date for what they’ll learn about the up-to-now wonderful person smiling at them from across the table. … The tone, tempo and type of information revealed in a burgeoning relationship can get complicated. Is there ever really a right time to tell someone you are dating you never finished high school, that your father is a Satan
worshipper, or that that sex tape of yours is still making the virtual rounds? ‘I generally advise people to hold off on revealing information until things have become exclusive and serious,’ says Dr. Diana Kirschner, a New York-based psychologist and author of Love in 90 Days … Psychologically, Kirschner says, the third date is a moment when you are just starting to relax. And comfort can quickly morph into the impulse to reveal embarrassing or scary information. ‘It’s an unconscious wish to be accepted,’ she says.”
My personal third date confession: I care too much, and, I scream in my sleep.
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